You will never “get over” the loss you’ve experienced, but over time you can begin to heal and even find hope and new meaning.
You are meant to fully live, no matter what you have been through. The death of a loved one or major life change can affect every area of your life.
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Feeling paralyzed by your pain? Looking it straight in the eye can make it less scary and therefore less powerful.
Maybe you’re frustrated by the amount of time you’ve spent in therapy and think you should be further along or that you’ve gotten as far as you can. Or maybe you think that feeling sad and resigned is your “new normal” forever.
A large component of the life cycle is to learn about death and dying. Death is not something to fear but rather to be educated about and from which to learn. As your coach I can empower you to heal in a way that works best for you. You decide your grief goals and I support and inspire you in achieving them.
Interactive dialog and education of the grief process fosters hope and healing. Multiple studies have proven even severe trauma and loss can inspire people to grow, evolve, and create lives that are strengthened by their experiences. Grief can change the trajectory of your life and can be a source of inspiration to create new meaning and purpose for our lives.
Share your heart with someone who gets it
As your coach, I help you to reconnect with and rebuild your strengths, your coping strategies and the relationships, activities and inner resources that give your life meaning. I make no assumptions about what you feel, think, or want. Rather, I come to our sessions with an open mind and an ear deeply tuned to the one person who knows best how to get your life moving again before you.
Together, we explore your feelings, your strengths, your untapped capabilities, and the thoughts that may be slowing your healing. Together, we help you identify, then take the steps that will restore momentum to your life. Clients I’ve worked with have been able to move beyond the array of emotions associated with grief and found peace and hope to live and love again after the loss of a loved one.
I was 22 years old when my father took his own life. I was with him and my family only 6 days prior celebrating my sister’s graduation from high school.
My father was especially emotional that evening, but that wasn’t unusual for him as he was sensitive, and it was a proud moment for him and my mother. He walked me to my car after the event and hugged me in a way that was different – you know that awkward long hug. I didn’t think too much of it at the time as I had seen no signs and could have never imagined he was planning his suicide.
There are no words to describe the emotions that I felt when I received the dreaded phone call from my mother a few days later. It was as if someone sucked the life right out of me. The coming days and months were a blur and all the feelings you hear about when someone you love takes their own life. Yes, they are real and very complex.
Therapy helped me survive the tidal wave of grief and pull myself from the tunnel of overwhelming sadness and anger. I acted strong in front of my kids (1 and 2 years old), family and friends, but inside I felt hollow. I ached for all the lost moments that would never happen and was devastated that my children would not know their grandfather.
Within the next year my marriage fell apart and I became a single mom of a 2 and 3-year-old. My whole world crumbled in what seemed like seconds. I desperately wanted to believe I could still have a happy, fulfilled life but I wasn’t sure how. So, over the next several years, life happened to me instead of for me.
I’ve had a very successful career in healthcare IT, including senior leadership roles at organizations such as the University of Wisconsin Hospital and Clinics, University of Washington Medical Center, UCLA, and Cleveland Clinic in Abu Dhabi to name a few. I have a BA in Behavioral Science and an MBA in Healthcare Administration.
While these opportunities were challenging and enjoyable in many ways, they didn’t feed my soul. I felt something was missing. I wasn’t waking up each day and doing the things I’m passionate about or things that bring me joy. Instead someone else was setting my agenda for most of my waking hours
The real turning point happened unexpectedly, as they always do. On February 28, 2018, we lost a 5-week-old grandson to pneumonia and a 34-year-old niece 8 months later to an accidental drug overdose. It was during this very dark stretch in my life that I realized I wasn’t living out my true purpose.
And as sad and traumatic as it was in those moments, something happened inside of me that made me take a closer look at my life. During that incredibly difficult period of my life, I had a decision to make.
I went on a quest for something to fix my life and to help get me through the grief I was feeling at the time. I began to research grief, trauma and healing extensively. I studied cognitive behavioral therapy and read every book on death and dying I could find.
It was the combination of this research and going through the UW Professional Coaching program and ICF Coaching Certification that helped me figure out how to turn my loss into a strategy for growth.
I learned to see myself as stronger because of what I’d been through instead of using it as a reason to give up or slow down.
The changes I experienced were so profound, I followed my heart, left my corporate job, and now have a new mission to pay it forward by empowering others grieving the loss of a loved one to make positive changes, create their own joy, and get excited about the future again.
Why a Grief Coach and why me?
Grief coaching is one of my areas of expertise. However, I didn’t just wake up one day and decide to be a Grief Coach. I didn’t choose to be so expert at grief and loss. It chose me. I surely would not have chosen to go through the many losses I’ve experienced. Yet, I know that the knowledge, compassion and learning that are the results of my past trials, are truly gifts.
When I’m not coaching
I am a mom to two children, Grammy to seven grandchildren and a wife to an amazing man whom I call my soulmate and best friend. We have been on quite a journey together. We have been through some valleys together but every time we stay on the same page. We are good at handling obstacles and setbacks, both positive thinkers, good communicators, and appreciate, support and motivate each other. This is one of the reasons I’m so passionate about helping others. I believe everyone should be so lucky to give and receive such love.
My number one core value is family and my number two core value is adventure. So, when I’m not coaching or consulting, I enjoy spending time with family and involved in anything outdoors. We are a family of water skiers and surfers, enjoy spending time at the beach, traveling, hiking, biking and golfing. I’m also fairly concerned with my health, especially as I get older, so working out, meditation and eating healthy are part of my daily routine. And, I would be remiss if I didn’t mention that we are a family of 3 Maine Coon cats. Let’s just say, there’s never a dull moment.
Kind words from clients
“Jacqueline coached me during one of the most difficult periods of my adult life. I wouldn’t be where I am today without her support and guidance.”
“Among Jackie’s many strengths is her ability to listen. Listening involves hearing and engaging in someone’s energy, mood, and thought processes. Navigating the grieving process leaves one feeling alone and sometimes those close to us get tired of our grief and hearing the same suffering over and over. Jacqueline was able to create a space for me to show up exactly as I needed to on any given day, and also encouraged me to move forward and do the healthy things I needed to do in order to heal and begin living again. I wouldn’t be where I am today without her support and guidance.”